Empower Not Devour

Recently I got out of a situation where the people did nothing to appreciate my presence, and I began to feel as if I was  lesser of a person while I was there. I did not enjoy my time, and would often complain to people in my life about how ridiculous I felt I was being treated.

Also recently, I moved into a house with my boyfriend. It’s been great. I get to hang out with someone who I find such joy in being with everyday. I get to come home knowing that he wants me there, and cares to listen to what I have to say. He believes in all the crazy life goals I come up with for myself, and I want the same for him.

It is so important for us to surround ourselves with people who want to make us better versions of ourselves. We need to be with people who make us the happiest we can feel. I’ve gotten to spend three weekends in a row with my best friend, along with spending some time with my family. It’s been really great.

When you are with someone, you should feel great about yourself. These people should empower you, not devour you. They should motivate you in whatever endeavors you chose to embark on. They should want to be there with you every step of the way. Not necessarily physically with you, but just stay in tune with you throughout the process. The relationship you have with these people should reciprocate one another. It should not be “you give your all, and they do nothing in return,” and vice versa.

If you are in a toxic relationship whether it be romantically, or not, maybe it’s time to part your ways. Even if it’s a life long friend, and you don’t think you can do it because you’ve been friends for so long, once you get this negativity out of your life, you will literally feel that weight being lifted off of your shoulders.

Sometimes once we rid our lives of these relationships, it gives us more room for the healthy ones. It gives us more energy to put towards ours goals. We aren’t wasting our time and energy trying to satisfy this person who does not want to help us achieve the things we need or want to do. When we have this extra energy back, and more people who want us to succeed, we can take even greater leaps into our journey to success.



2 thoughts on “Empower Not Devour

  1. I just recently got out of a situation like that, I absloutly love this, it is excatly how I felt, and the peace I found it letting it all go. Surround yourself with the right people and you will become the right person.

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  2. I can really relate to this post. I’ve been “on the road” for 188 weeks now, staying in various people’s homes and only a few have been respectful and honoring. I’ve even had some awful experiences staying at the homes of friends, people who invited me in, then changed the agreement mid-stream, leaving me scrambling to gather my things in just a few minutes.

    It’s really pushing me to honor myself more and like you talk about, find situations where I feel safe, supported, honored, celebrated, and fully welcome.

    Glad you have that place now for yourself!


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