Do you have one of those friends where you feel like you are practically the same person? You are so comfortable around them, you can do almost anything and not feel embarrassed? You sit in silence and it doesn’t feel awkward? Being friends with the people who can see who you truly are without judgement are the best kind of people.
This is how my best friend, Kayla, and I’s friendship is. Being friends since kindergarten gave us the opportunity to go those every awkward stage of life together. When I say awkward, I mean those moments in life you wish you could erase forever and swear to never bring up again. Yup, me and Kayla lived through those together (see the middle picture above).
Growing up we lived six houses apart, and basically spent every day together. Her dad even introduced me as his daughter at the meat market one time. When it came time to go to college, we went our separate ways. Now we live three hours apart.Even though we can’t physically hang out all the time, we still talk almost everyday, and we go and visit each other’s schools occasionally.
This weekend she came to visit, and it was great. We went out to breakfast, I helped her make almond butter for one of her design projects. She is going to be helping me with future design of the blog, and for my cookbook. We also went and saw baby farm animals. One thing I have always wanted to do was hold a baby pig, and today I did! Oh my, was it cute.
(side note: Go see baby animals. They will make you happy.)
Being friends for so long has given us the opportunity to be there for each other through everything. We’ve celebrated the excitement of milestone birthdays, to mourning the loss of a pet. No matter what, we had each other
Think for a moment, if something important were to happen in your life right now who would you have for support? Is it more than one person? Contact those people. Tell them how much you appreciate them.
We need these people in our lives. Research on support systems have proven they:
- Improve overall health and well being
- Make us more resilient
- Help us to live longer
- Help us identify stressors
- and much more…
The University of Buffalo has a great section describing the importance of Social Support Systems. They have so much more information on how to improve our social support, how they can help us, and more on the why they are important. To read the article, click on the link below:
Until then, go reach out to others, let them know you are there for them. Tell those who support you, how much you appreciate them for being there. This is so crucial in helping us live healthier lives! You cannot do this alone. People want to see you succeed, so let them be there every step of the way.
If you feel like you truly have no one, I want to be that someone. Please message me if you are feeling down, and need someone to talk to. If you have really exciting new, and feel like no one cares to hear it, I want to hear it! Even if we have never talked, know I am here for you. The good or the bad, I’ll listen to it all.